Shame, when emotionally intelligent, is an emotion that should happen in private. No one needs to know one is ashamed of their own behavior or that of close associates. As it relates to racism, what matters is the shame of it should also lead to a change in behavior.
Yes! This is great. As adults, we should all be responsible for our inner thoughts and feelings BUT should act publicly in a way that causes changes. Why should any adult care what any other adult feels prior to accepting that certain behaviors are moral??
Personally, I don't care what anybody else feels in order to come to the appropriate conclusion; I care that they come to the conclusion. Why should I care if White pp feel shame or happiness, as long as they admit their extrinsic privilege and do something about it?
You say it so well, Marley!