Thanks for this article. I’ve found that the Swiss psychologist Alice Miller is a great resource for people with a history of any sort of abuse, including emotional. Even in translation and even written decades ago, she makes no bones out of calling out all parents who abuse their children in any fashion, and she advocated for a sensible, pragmatic approach to narcissistic parents long before others were writing about putting aside forgiveness. During her era, people were recommending forgiveness as a method for dealing with narcissistic parents, thus guaranteeing that the abused children were erased again through privileging of the narcissists, ie parents.

She has always been a strong advocate for supporting emotionally abused children by being an active witness and calling out the parents. By extension, she recommends this approach to all victims of narcissists, regardless of the particulars of the relationship.

Thanks again!