I would suggest that some women — too many, in my estimation — hold onto their toxic femininity because at some level, it benefits them through patriarchal bargaining. In other words, some women trade off the support, often financial, which they get from a man even if it means tolerating onerous exhibitions of power and misogyny because in another arena — race — it benefits them profoundly — enough to compensate for the gender disadvantage and then more.

I believe this illustrates the reason that white women voted for Trump at a rate of 53% — this is white women participating in patriarchal bargaining: at some level, their perceived benefit financially is greater than what they would gain from female independence. They choose to be dominated because it comes with societal protection that is possibly greater than the gender loss they incur from accepting the domination.

The above provides a good photo as to who benefits from patriarchal bargaining. These women have decided, whether consciously or not, that their racial advantage — which is essentially connected to patriarchy through white supremacy —is greater than their gender disadvantage, so they are more than happy to participate. I call this ‘white supremacy,’ and it is alive and well.

Women of color, on the other hand, voted overwhelmingly for Clinton, which in some cases was simply a vote against Trump (a lesser of two evils); for black women, the percentage voting for Trump is in the single digits, while other women of color may, according to various studies, vote at rates in the teens or twenties. BUT no demographic voted for Trump’s form of constructed femininity and overt misogyny the way white women, as a group, did — collectively, more than half of them.

In the US, without discussing the profound impact on race in protecting white women and only white women, the onerous issue you describe will not be addressed thoroughly.

The patriarchal bargain which white women strike in order to defend their whiteness is the main deterrent to forward motion in this arena.

To put it bluntly, white women will have to be willing to give up their white privilege in order to negotiate this issue honestly, and most of them just don’t seem to want to. As a collective group, they act like white men.

It is going to be quite difficult — hypocritical, to be specific — for a group of women to claim constant victimization when, in fact, their behavior in another arena exhibits the same qualities as the men they criticize.

Perhaps this explains why millions of women attended the Women’s March in 2016, before Tamika Mallory was indiscriminately ousted, and the last one attracted only hundreds or a few thousand.

White women haven’t decided, as a group, whether they are going to advocate for real equality or keep their own heavy feet on the necks of all people of color, which is what our current state of affairs indicates most of them are doing.

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