POCs think of ourselves as equal people. Thus, the order of priorities is:
1. ACHIEVE ACTUAL EQUALITY.
2. ACHIEVE ACTUAL EQUALITY.
3. ACHIEVE ACTUAL EQUALITY.
Then, when we don't have white supremacy privileging white people anymore, we can all be nice and positive with each other!
Our priority is to fix the issue, not make sure white people get to have a positive experience while facing their privilege and the way they damage others when they toss it around indiscriminately. That should be the white person's priority too: doing the right thing first, whether or not you get to feel nice or positive.